One of the most wonderful things my husband says to me from time to time is this: “Can I give you a compliment about something?” OMG, yes! I’m all ears. Occasionally, he’ll even put it in a text: “Remind me to give you a compliment when I get home tonight.” He can barely walk in the door before I ask him what he wanted to tell me.
I’m not alone in brightening when I hear a compliment. Research shows that giving compliments is powerful for both the giver and the receiver. A simple, sincere comment can elevate mood, strengthen a connection, and even spark a chain reaction of kindness.
Why Don’t We Use Compliments More?
According to researchers at the University of Chicago and Cornell, most people underestimate how much their words will be appreciated. We fear sounding insincere or awkward, so we stay silent. Yet in controlled studies, recipients consistently reported that compliments felt more meaningful and memorable than givers expected.
Compliments are a form of “social nutrition.” They remind us that we’re seen and valued, something especially vital as we age, when social circles may shrink and affirmation can be in short supply.
Top Takeaways
If someone makes you smile, say so.
If a friend looks radiant, tell them.
If a neighbor or family member does something kind, acknowledge it.
Don’t wait for a special occasion, simply share what you’re already thinking. Your words might be the bright spot in someone’s day, and you’ll feel uplifted, too.